CNN came out with a hard hitting editorial on nice guys not getting dates. The story begins with Dean a nice guy who couldn't get dates. He mentionedthat his shy personality and thoughtfulness was a red flag for girls...so they passed him over for the so called 'bad boys'. He said he was clueless for most of his 20's in the area of dating since girls just wanted to be friends with him.
So in rebuttal to this sad state of affairs, the article throws in some quotes from dating coaches that aim to get men out of the nice guy rut. One coach goes so far as to say "Stop wasting money on expensive dates and don't cater to her needs first". The author of 'The Game' (the male version of 'The Rules') stated that he fell into the nice guy category once, and as a result the girl he wanted to date asked him to help paint her walls. The outcome? You guessed it...she had him paint while she went on a date with another guy. Yikes. Another man, said the nice guy routine landed him in divorce court.
Other reports of studying male attractiveness to females cited the bad boy persona as being more preferable for college age women. OK, I'll stop here as anyone would get to what I think the point of the article is....and.....shocker!!! girls in college want to date freely, with few strings attached. Who better to fit that bill than a bad boy. These girls don't want to settle down yet, so the wild adventurous type will fulfill all the fantasies a 20something girl has. In essence a bad boy is what a bad girl in her 20's wants. Now the funny thing about this is that Dean is mentioned again at the end of the article as having been successfully nice-since he is now married. And the end quote is 'sometimes all it takes is for a girl to give a nice guy a chance'. Ug, talk about a contradicting article. The thing is that once a girl grows a brain about her relationships and asks the hard hitting questions like, 'why does my guy treat me so badly?' and 'why doesn't he want to settle down?' Well then she will go for the nice guy and marry him, and by then it is simply a matter of supply and demand. The terrible thing is that the girls that are still in bad boy mentality by the time they wake up and grow up say, 'why can't I find a nice guy?' I'm just lucky that I wasn't blinded by bad boy stupidity, and found someone that didn't disregard my needs or pass on going out to a nice place for a date in order to uphold a 'mysterious' persona. All I can say about this article is that 5% of it is true and the rest is laughable. I wish a hearty 'good luck' to all those bad boys trying to get a long term relationship out of their girls.